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Accept Yourself And Others - Nerdful Mind #33

August 30, 2020 by Simon Mannes

It's difficult to let go.

  • Someone is mean to us and we get angry
  • A friend lets us down and we feel hurt
  • Our partner doesn't meet our expectations, and we feel stressed

We can get these feelings from others. But also from ourselves.

  • We are mean to someone and then feel angry because we hurt another human being
  • We don't meet our own expectations and become frustrated
  • We miss a few days of training and beat ourselves up over it

These negative emotions don't bring us any benefits.

Accept yourself as you are.

And accept others.

Be friendly, be helpful, and be compassionate.

We are all human beings, and everyone is struggling with something in their lives. Everyone has their reasons to do things their way.

Very few people deliberately want to harm others. But if you see no other way, it's okay to leave the room.

“We don't have to agree on anything to be kind to one another” – Unknown

Reading Recommendations

Be Kind to Yourself | Psychology Today

“There are many paths toward well-being through kindness and self-compassion. Yet the success of these strategies depends on one key caveat: It’s not what you do, but why you do it.”

Under- and Overconfidence – Laura’s Textbooks

“As one of the three NYT articles I chose to review this week, I selected a piece by Spencer Greenberg and Seth Stephens-Davidowitz entitled ‘You Are Not as Good at Kissing as You Think. But You Are Better at Dancing.’”

The App Sandbox - Slack Engineering

“Batten down the hatches! The app sandbox is now enabled for all web content. This is a fancy way of saying we’ve dialed up the security of the app. It wasn’t unsafe before, but it’s double safe now. What is the ‘app sandbox,’ what is it protecting against, and why does it matter?”

Weekly Mindfulness Practice

Read through the following sentences. After each one, pause and notice how it makes you feel. Take one minute (or more) and think about that sentence.

I love myself.

I am grateful.

I love others.

I sleep well.

I am content.

I am enough.

End Note

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Have a great week

Simon

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