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Let it be – Nerdful Mind #80

“Let go” means “let it be”. One thing I learned from the book “10% Happier” is that when meditation teachers say we should “let go” of a thought or feeling what they mean is “let it be”. Our job as meditators is to...

The Joy of Moving – Nerdful Mind #79

Can you remember the last time your mind and body were in perfect harmony? I love this feeling. It's like the flow state when writing code, but for mind and body. Just focusing on the current movement and the goal....

Noticing Tensions – Nerdful Mind #78

One simple but powerful benefit of meditation is that I now regularly check in with my body. Every few minutes, sometimes multiple times a minute, I check in. Every time, my focus is a little different, but I always...

Little Breaks – Nerdful Mind #77

I always knew that breaks are important. But there is a difference between knowing, understanding , and internalizing . When you know something, you can talk about it with others. You occasionally remind yourself...

Breathing – Nerdful Mind #76

When I don't know what to do in a situation, I take a deep breath and smile gently. As I started to write this issue, I felt a sudden rush of anxiety. I had no topic. Nothing to write about. Just a few years ago, this...

To The Universe, Nothing We Do Matters – Nerdful Mind #75

At first, this thought frightened me. Nothing we can do on this pale blue dot will ever have a meaning to the vast universe. Every person will be forgotten some day. Wait long enough, and everything we build today...

Healthy Relationship with Tech – Nerdful Mind #74

What does it mean to have a healthy relationship with tech? As developers, we spend many of our waking hours and most of our working hours in front of screens. Most of us have a smartphone, and many have on-screen...

How you see yourself - Nerdful Mind #73

There's this notion for startups that to make more sales, you can either increase the value your product brings, or increase the perceived value of your product. You increase the value of your product by adding features,...

Negative Emotions – Nerdful Mind #72

Negative emotions are self-reinforcing. At least, they can be . Negative thoughts and feelings are a difficult topic, because everyone is susceptible to them to a different degree. Like an avalanche, negative emotions...

There are no shortcuts – Nerdful Mind #71

There are no shortcuts to success . There are no shortcuts to happiness . There are no shortcuts to friendship . There are no shortcuts to being fit & healthy . There are no shortcuts to true love . There are no...

Life is Long-Term – Nerdful Mind #70

“Survival matters more than performance.” I recently watched a video about the concept of ergodicity (here's a great article if you prefer reading). It's the mathematical idea that if some activity has the chance to...

Like A Pond Becoming Still – Nerdful Mind #69

Meditating is like watching a pond become still. At first, the surface calms down and you can see it reflecting its surroundings. Then the water itself clears. The particles of mud and dirt sink to the ground and you...

What Do I Practice When I Meditate? – Nerdful Mind #68

Meditation is a practice. But what do you practice when you meditate? You practice two things: Noticing your thoughts and feelings Letting go of thoughts and feelings you noticed Both together offer so many direct...

Fear of The Unknown – Nerdful Mind #67

When was the last time you did something that scared you? “Do one thing every day that scares you” is something you might have read. I recently saw a longer version of this: Do one thing that scares you a little every...

The Lives You Touch – Nerdful Mind #66

How many lives have you touched this week? There are obvious ones: your partner, friends, family and coworkers. The people you interact with often. Then there are people whose lives you only briefly touched. The person...

Communicating Mindfully – Nerdful Mind #65

Mindfulness not only benefits your own life. When you stay present without judging, you are more calm, and more compassionate with yourself and others. We can take mindfulness to our communication. This leads to deeper...

Seeing Everyday Beauty – Nerdful Mind #64

I always marvel at the complexity and beauty of our universe. Whether we look at the smallest subatomic particles or the largest structures in our universe. We can find beauty everywhere. There's so much we as humans...

What Is Compassion? – Nerdful Mind #63

Compassion is the feeling you get when others or yourself are in physical, mental, or emotional pain, and you get the motivation to ease that pain. To ease that pain, you do acts of compassion. Compassion is closely...

Being Curious – Nerdful Mind #62

Curiosity is a gift you can give yourself. When you're curious, you are asking questions and looking for answers. You burn with the desire to learn more about others and yourself, the past and the future, your surroundings...

Fear of Missing Out – Nerdful Mind #61

You know that fear of missing out. You may have it when your friends are doing an activity where you don't take part. Others have FOMO about social media like Twitter or Reddit. “Just a quick check. Maybe I'm missing...

Trust and Respect – Nerdful Mind #60

Trust and respect make or break teams. Let's break this sentence down: A team is a group of at least two people that have common goals. This encompasses your team at work, and your relationship or family. Trust has...

Communicating is Listening – Nerdful Mind #59

Communicating is hard. It is the only way we interact with others. And we cannot not communicate . Other humans are the source of much of our joy and most of our sadness. Therefore, we should always strive to get better...

Doing What You Want – Nerdful Mind #58

What do you want to do? Do you know? This simple question has so many facets: There's the temporal view : what do you want to do now, later today, or tomorrow. The question may have unspoken conditions : what would...

Anger and Hate – Nerdful Mind #57

You know this feeling. Your heart racing, your mind a foggy cloud of anger. “How could they do this?!” “But why?” “I hate this!” Just like worry or fear , anger is mostly useless ( but not completely ). It gives...

The Voice in Your Head – Nerdful Mind #56

The constant chatter in our minds. I always thought these voices are me. That every single sentence is important. That every thought, however it makes me feel, expresses who I am deep inside. Except it's not. Meditation...

Being Patient – Nerdful Mind #55

Are you patient? According to Wikipedia, patience “is the ability to endure difficult circumstances. Patience may involve perseverance in the face of delay; tolerance of provocation without responding in disrespect/anger;...

You Can't Fail at Meditation – Nerdful Mind #54

You can't fail at meditation. The goal of meditation is to observe your object of focus without judging it. You can't fail at either of these two parts. If you fail to observe the object of focus and the thoughts and...

Worry – Nerdful Mind #53

What do you worry about? Do you worry about losing your health, or your job? Do you worry what others think of you? Worry is a useless emotion. How did that sentence make you feel? Worrying is always directed at...

Making the Best of It – Nerdful Mind #52

“You should make the best of this.” But how? And what does it mean? There's a pandemic going on. We stay at home and hear bad news every day. We can't meet friends and family right now, and some of us have loved ones...

New Year's Resolutions – Nerdful Mind #51

Do you have new year's resolutions? Be it more physical activity, eating healthier, keeping a writing habit, or starting that side business. If you had resolutions before, be honest: did you keep the resolutions last...

Enjoying Silence – Nerdful Mind #50

When was the last time you enjoyed silence? Silence is not only the absence of sound. It's the absence of visual distraction and movement as well. You've probably heard that a great speech needs pauses at the right...

Reduce Friction – Nerdful Mind #49

How hard is it to do what you want? If you want to eat a sugary snack, do you have it within arm's reach? Or would you need to go to the nearest supermarket to buy one? We call this concept of how hard or easy it is...

Becoming Fearless – Nerdful Mind #48

Fear is mostly useless. Not everywhere. And it wasn't for most of history. Fear helped us as a species survive. But today, in wealthy countries, you don't need to fear being an animal's main course. Unless you're eye-to-eye...

It's About the Journey – Nerdful Mind #47

Life is a journey. You’ve heard this before. But this analogy goes further than you may think. If you have goals, you spend your time working towards these goals. But the journey of your life doesn’t stop once you...

Quiet Confidence – Nerdful Mind #46

Confidence and mindfulness are closely related. You can’t be confident when your mind constantly thinks about the past, or worries about the future. If you’re holding a presentation, people feel it when you’re not...

Blaming Others – Nerdful Mind #45

It’s difficult to accept faults. Not the faults of others, and even more so not your own. When you get angry or disappointed, examine why you feel that way. Is it because of the other person? Or do you direct that...

Connect With Your Body – Nerdful Mind #44

It's always with you. It shows you how you feel, and it affects the way you feel. Of course I'm talking about your body. Your body offers many opportunities to anchor yourself in the current moment. The feeling in...

Mindful Goal Setting – Nerdful Mind #43

Is there something you want to change? It’s great that you wish to improve. That means you’re alive. That you have ambitions, dreams, and that you’re on a journey. But where do these goals come from? At what point...

Playfulness And Curiosity – Nerdful Mind #42

Seeing my 2 years old niece run around in the garden makes me light-hearted. The smile on her face. And her wide-open eyes looking at everyday things in amazement. Most of us forget this playful curiosity when we get...

You Are Enough – Nerdful Mind #41

Smile if you’ve ever given yourself a hard time. Maybe you didn’t reach a goal important to you, or you were mean to someone close to you. There's no need to give yourself a hard time. Accept that you did something...

Unconditional Love – Nerdful Mind #40

What is unconditional love? It means many things simultaneously, and you can direct it towards another person or yourself. Unconditional love means: giving, expecting nothing in return being appreciative and supportive...

Mindful Relationships – Nerdful Mind #39

What relationships do you have in life? And which are the important ones? Your colleagues, friends, parents, siblings, partner, or kids are all part of your life. The relationship that arguably influences our lives...

Noticing Resistance – Nerdful Mind #38

Resistance accompanies us every day. Be it an uncomfortable physical feeling you rather wouldn’t have, or a thought in your mind that you resist. The journey of mindfulness is also a journey of noticing resistance....

Express your feelings – Nerdful Mind #37

How do you know what you feel? Yes, you ‘should’ feel how you feel. But that doesn’t always work, at least for me. I think I’m feeling a certain way, but in retrospect it’s obvious that there were more things hidden...

Slow and Steady – Nerdful Mind #36

There is so much to do. It’s easy to get overwhelmed. Everything calls for our attention, and there are myriads of tasks that take you closer to your goals. You only have so much time left here on earth. How do you...

You're Constantly Changing – Nerdful Mind #35

Most things are changing. From the people moving in and out of your city, over the cells in your body, to each thought in your mind. The people in your life are also constantly changing, too. We make new experiences,...

Leave Or Accept – Nerdful Mind #34

What do you do when things don't go according to plan? It feels good to get our voice heard. To be understood. To share our anger and frustration with someone. But complaining doesn't solve anything. In an uncomfortable...

Accept Yourself And Others - Nerdful Mind #33

It's difficult to let go. Someone is mean to us and we get angry A friend lets us down and we feel hurt Our partner doesn't meet our expectations, and we feel stressed We can get these feelings from others. But also...

Mindful Throughout The Day – Nerdful Mind #32

You can practice Mindfulness everywhere, anytime. Whether you are meditating and focussing on your breath, going to work, or cooking dinner. In meditation, you practice awareness and letting go of thoughts. You define...

Breathing As Your Anchor - Nerdful Mind #31

Your breath is the perfect anchor. One of our goals in meditation is to get more often into a state of continuous mindfulness. We start with meditation to practice this feeling of being present. Then, with time, we...

Acceptance - Nerdful Mind #30

Have you ever thought about what acceptance truly means? Acceptance is not passive resignation. It means to not fight with reality, but to recognize it and find ways to work with it. Too often we feel angry or...

Mindfulness, Attention and Focus – Nerdful Mind #29

Focused meditation is the basis of most other meditation techniques. You focus your attention mindfully on an object of focus. This could be your breath, a visualization, or a small pebble in front of you. Focusing...

Visualization Meditation – Nerdful Mind #28

Imagination is powerful. We humans imagine how things turn out before pursuing them. Animals can imagine the effects of their behavior. Imagination is what we do when we solve a problem, and when we make plans for...

Changing Yourself – Nerdful Mind #27

I want to change myself - is meditation right for me? What is your expectation when you sit down to meditate? Do you want to change? What, and why? Although meditation can change yourself in the long run, don't pressure...

Movement Meditation – Nerdful Mind #26

Meditation is not just sitting still. Although that is one form of it, there are more types of meditation than there are people on our planet. Some categories of meditation are: focus meditation, loving kindness meditation,...

Loving Kindness – Nerdful Mind #25

Do you feel better when you feel close to others? I'd bet yes. We're all human. Loving-kindness meditation ( Metta Meditation ) helps you cultivate this feeling. It focuses on developing benevolence and loving kindness...

Are Meditaton and Life Separate? – Nerdful Mind #24

How do you approach your meditation? You sit down and do your favorite meditation technique. Then.. What? How do you transition from meditation back to life? You open your eyes, smile, take a deep breath, and carry...

Notifications Disrupt Your Attention – Nerdful Mind #23

What do you do when your phone vibrates? When you hear that bling ? Even if you don't immediately grab your phone and read your notification, it ripped away your attention from whatever you were focusing on. Do you...

Slowing Down – Nerdful Mind #22

My dancing teacher says that if we can’t do something slowly, we can’t do it fast. When we only dance a pattern fast, we probably hide errors. If we learn to dance it slowly, we can always speed up later. This is one...

Past Mistakes – Nerdful Mind #21

I have this memory that always comes back and gives me negative feelings. What do I do? First, remember that the past already happened. It's unchangeable. The only thing you can do is learn from it. To do things better in...

Feeling Lonely – Nerdful Mind #20

As humans, we sometimes feel lonely. We are stuck at home and can't meet friends and family. Or we get that feeling that we are isolated inside our head and can never share our thoughts and feelings as they are. This...

Walking Meditation – Nerdful Mind #19

Did you know there are forms of meditation where you don’t sit still? When people hear about meditation, many think this means sitting on the floor, cross-legged, and connecting with your breath. Meditation is much...

Online Miscommunication - Nerdful Mind #18

As humans, we tend to misinterpret communication. Especially when we’re not seeing the other person face-to-face. When was the last time you received a text message that you stared on in disbelief? A message that...

Expectations vs Reality – Nerdful Mind #17

Most negative feelings exist because our expectations do not match reality. Whether you planned a day at the beach only to find it raining the entire day, or a family member personally attacks you in a discussion....

Mindful Conversations - Nerdful Mind #16

How was your last conversation with a friend or family member? Did you tell a story? Did you really listen? And did you ask questions? We sometimes think about what to say next, mentally check our to-do list or...

Mindful Eating - Nerdful Mind #15

Where is your mind when you are eating? Are you fully present with your meal or do you think about something else, listen to a podcast or watch your favorite series? Just like cooking, eating is a wonderful opportunity...

Mindful Cooking – Nerdful Mind #14

How often do you cook? Cooking is an exceptional opportunity to practice mindfulness. You work with your hands and touch the different ingredients. You can smell what’s in the pot, feel the heat, and hear it boiling....

Awareness vs. Attention – Nerdful Mind #13

In each meditation, we practice awareness. What is awareness, and why is awareness important? Awareness is not the same as attention. When you focus on something, you give it your undivided attention. It fully absorbs...

Compassion and Awareness – Nerdful Mind #12

Meditation, in essence, means compassion and awareness. This week we’ll examine what compassion is and how we use it in our meditation practice. Compassion is the feeling that occurs when another person is suffering,...

Simplicity In Working Life – Nerdful Mind #11

Last week, we discussed simplicity in our personal life and that it means to eliminate what is nonessential. The same concept can be applied to our working lives. Simplicity in our work context means: Which tasks...

Simplicity In Personal Life – Nerdful Mind #10

Last week, we looked at simplicity in general as a means to have less stuff to think about. What does simplicity mean in our personal life? Simplicity does not only mean to get rid of things you don't need. It means...

Simple Or Complex? – Nerdful Mind #9

Why is there so much fuzz around simplicity? Simplicity means less complexity. Fewer things to understand and fewer items to maintain. Fewer decisions to make and fewer distractions from the current moment. Ultimately,...

Frustration – Nerdful Mind #8

We are dissatisfied when our inner expectations do not match reality. To fix this, we have two options: either we force reality to match our expectations, or we adjust our expectations. Forcing reality to match my...

Mindfulness, Not Meditation – Nerdful Mind #7

Meditation is not the key to a happy life. It is undoubtedly true that it can help you become more content, and this is also the case for me, but it is not the right "tool" for everyone. Meditation ultimately leads...

Thoughts Are Waves – Nerdful Mind #6

You are not your thoughts. You might have heard this quote before and wondered: “what am I, if not my thoughts?” There is the story of the two men at a beach. While one man sat there enjoying the view, the other man...

Forming Habits - Nerdful Mind #5

Last week, my introduction was about  how small steps can create significant results . But also that these changes need time. It is difficult for most humans to change their behavior at will. That is because most...

Your Life Is The Sum Of Your Decisions - Nerdful Mind #4

Meditation is a journey. So is life itself. Where we are now in our lives is determined only marginally by what we did yesterday. It is more determined by what we did a few months ago, and even more by what we did...

Don’t Live For The Weekend - Nerdful Mind #3

Hi! I hope you had a great weekend! Most of us spend most of our time working, so weekends are an opportunity to spend time with family and friends or work on personal projects. Time always moves forward, and no money...

Why? - Nerdful Mind #2

Why? This simple question obsesses me. There are so many levels to it. "WHY do I want a coffee right now?", "WHY do I work as a software engineer", "WHY does the customer want that feature?", "and WHY do they want...

Mindfulness & Software Engineering - Nerdful Mind #1

Hello! Lovely to welcome you to the first issue of Nerdful Mind. You will receive a weekly curation of articles around mindfulness, neuroscience, and software engineering principles. For me, all three areas are closely...

Mindfulness for Developers,
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