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Triforce of Communication – Nerdful Mind #139

September 11, 2022 by Simon Mannes

The great thing about communication methods is that it's often sufficient if only one party knows about them. That’s the case with the Triforce.

The Triforce of Communication works by communicating clearly what you (or the other person) are trying to get out of the conversation.

Triforce #1: You just want to inform and don't seek any advice or sympathy. May be a one-sided vent or info about something.

Triforce #2: You want sympathy, reassurance, or understanding, but don't want any advice.

Triforce #3: You're seeking advice. May include sympathy, reassurance, or understanding if you want that and ask for it.

This prevents a rather typical misunderstanding where you just want to vent and maybe get told you're right, but don't want any advice. Some people default to giving advice, so it's great communicating what you want beforehand.

This works the other way around. If someone tells you something, ask them whether they just want to inform you, or if they want empathy/sympathy/reassurance, or if they want advice.

“Communication works for those who work at it.” – John Powell

Reading Recommendations

Mindful Communication: How To Have More Empathic & Compassionate Conversations

“Implementing these basic techniques within your daily life can significantly improve your mindful listening skills. Supplementing these conversational techniques with other mindfulness methods will enhance your ability to be present in all areas of life, making the transition from mindless to mindful listening much easier.”

Evolutionary psychology of language

“Evolutionary psychology of language is the study of the evolutionary history of language as a psychological faculty within the discipline of evolutionary psychology. It makes the assumption that language is the result of a Darwinian adaptation. There are many competing theories of how language might have evolved, if indeed it is an evolutionary adaptation.”

Types Of Barcodes - 1D & 2D - Scanbot SDK

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Weekly Mindfulness Practice

Take a deep breath and let everything go.

Close your eyes.

Think about one thing, moment, or person who made you happy today.

Enjoy that feeling for a few breaths.

Open your eyes with a smile.

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