Mindfulness not only benefits your own life.
When you stay present without judging, you are more calm, and more compassionate with yourself and others.
We can take mindfulness to our communication. This leads to deeper and more relaxed conversations, with everyone involved being happier.
Here are 5 tips that help me communicate more mindfully.
Mindful communication is about being fully present without judging your own thoughts or whatever you think you understood from your conversation partner.
Make the other person feel heard and understood by asking clarifying questions, and by summarizing what you understood and asking if that is what they meant. Don't assume you know what they want to say.
Value the opinions and experiences of the people you talk to. If someone has a different opinion than you, that's okay. They made unique experiences in their lives.
Differing opinions are not the same as personally attacking each other. It's okay to leave the conversation if the other person gets angry or attacks you.
Be careful with statements or recommendations that include the other person. Avoid words such as “only”, “just”, “never”, and “always”.
Resist the urge of “responding”. When someone talks, listen. Don't just wait for your turn to tell them something.
Ultimately, communicating mindfully means being fully present, making the other person feel heard and understood, valuing opinions and experiences, and resisting the urge of "responding".
"Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply." — Stephen R. Covey
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Weekly Mindfulness Practice
The next time you’re outdoors, try a walking meditation. It only adds a few minutes to your route, and walking is a great opportunity to practice mindfulness.
Before you start walking, stand still and focus on your next two to three breaths.
Now shift your attention to your feet. Do you feel your weight on the floor?
Start walking slowly before going to your usual walking speed. Focus on the sensations in your feet on each step.
Use the sensations in your feet as your anchor and return to them when your mind wanders off.
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